Since moving to San Diego Richard and I have been very lucky to have become part of a circle of friends. We all hang out, separately or all together all the time. We always have fun. Whether it’s our weekly SYTYCD parties, movie nights, BBQ’s, or going out to Hillcrest or Downtown and “painting the town”. I consider these people my San Diego family! But lately we have been noticing that we are a bit of a clique. There aren’t really any new faces (well, since Richard and I). No fresh blood. We just aren’t meeting any new people and that makes it tough for the single kids in the group. Not that we want to be matchmakers. Good gawd no! But when you hang out with new people you meet their people… Maybe one of their people might know another single guy and through just getting together our single kids will be exposed to more quality singles? Cause let’s face it, when you hang out at bars every week to meet people you are going to meet people that like hanging out in bars. And aside from all of that, we are a group that likes to entertain. It’s more fun with more people! Right? We decided that Sheila’s BBQ was our big event. We were all to bring new people.
So for me, I am not surprised by any of this. I have been trying to meet people with interests like mine lately, going to the SD Tweet-ups and Blogger Meet-ups, and actually going out and meeting the people I have been talking to on my various online social networks. My goal has been to get some friends who understand what the hell I am talking about with my SEO, CMS, tweets, plurks, and whatnots. People who understand why I constantly check my phone! In the meantime I have met a fair amount of people that I see or talk to regularly enough. So for this past BBQ I was pretty confident that I could get some new folks to come around. As it turned out, not so much. I do understand tho. One I asked at the last minute, and the others, well I mean given the choice I think I’d pick existing friends over newbies… I guess.
My other friends tried different approaches. One tried picking out someone that looked like they’d fit in with us at Mo’s and just walking up and chatting with him for a bit, followed up with the big invite. The guy actually seemed cool about it after the initial “we aren’t hitting on you” stuff was out of the way. He actually agreed to come by, and we got his number. In the end he flaked. Sheila invited her local barista that she chats with at her coffee place all the time. A good idea, I thought! He was a no show as well. So out of 6 new people invited 100% declined or flaked at the last minute.
I guess my point is this. I understand how to meet people. At least online. (Richard and I aren’t single. In the gay world I find making new friends in real life so awkward… People are out looking for dates, not friends usually.) Besides, I think I have a number of great resources right now that are more reliable than just picking someone out of the crowds. I have met people. How do I get them from the acquaintance stage to the friend stage? How do we as an established group assimilate new folk? I can tell you it was a long time before I felt comfortable with everyone… How do we make that easier?
I neglected my blog yesterday. I hate when I do that. Makes me feel like an absentee parent or something. I could have at least put up a funny YouTube or something. *sigh*
Anyhoo, not much has happened. I just finished Father’s Day weekend, which I didn’t think I would survive this year. Not due to myself, but other issues. work is complicated, and that’s as far as I’ll go with that here. Yanno. I barely had a moment to call my own dad and wish him a happy Father’s Day! So I am thrilled that the weekend is finally done. This week looks to be normal. That is a relief. I think I need to go be social. Maybe the Cruise Director *cough* Fred *cough* has got the SYTYCD parties going now. Auditions are over right? It’d be nice to see all the Idol Boys again…
And there really needs to be a Happy Hour this afternoon. Really.
I haven’t blogged yet today. And. And, I never really did an Idol post. What? Am I feeling well? Actually I am. I am just a little unmotivated this week. I attribute it to working the weekend. That is mentally exhausting as well as physically.
You believe that, right? That excuse flies? No? Aw, hell. So what if I have been lazy! Sheesh…
Anyhoo. Idol was grand last night. It was a bit on the Jesus-y side again tho. The theme was songs that ‘inspire you’. David Cook sucked, while Kristy Lee Cook was.. not horrible. I still hate her though. Michael Johns looked and sounded amazing. Our hosts this week (we were off the hook last night) did a great job. I gotta say tho, watch out for the blueberry martini. It’ll get ya if your not careful!
That brings us to tonight. American Idol Gives Back. I loved this one last year. I know, it’s a lot of fluf, and a bit corny. I can’t help it. I insisted on watching it this year. We had Fred over for dinner and then we watched the entire program. It was just what I wanted! I laughed, I teared up, and I think I fell in love with Miley Cyrus. Even though she doesn’t watch Idol... Srsly tho. For 15 years old, this girl has got it going on. I was a bit shocked when she crawled on the floor. Her dad must be so proud. I love her! Other highlights included Jimmy Kimmel’s intro for Simon, Fergie, Heart, OMG FERGIE AND HEART!!! The Idol’s group performances were really good too. I loved the opener with my dancers from So You Think You Can Dance… Actually the SYTYCD kids were all over the whole show! Very nice.
It was great. But I really am tired, so good night…
Go Sabra! Didn’t I say it would be her? Let’s just say I did, okay? The whole time. Shhh!
The supremely talented yet relatively inexperienced 19-year-old was crowned the winner of the third season of So You Think You Can Dance Thursday night, becoming the hit Fox show’s first female champ and surprising critics who felt that Lacey’s flair or Danny’s God-given talent (or, heck, even Neil’s pretty hair) would prevail in the end.
Although it looked as if she might have rolled her ankle during her solo Wednesday, Johnson, who will pocket $250,000 in prize money, was standing tall tonight. Full Story
It was nice to see some of my favorites along the way back again. I have spent the last 2 hours catching up with the show since I was, of course, at work. I even got to see Jaimie!
There were a lot of other “remember me” moments where the judges called back dancers to see a dance again. I like that, in theory. I just kinda wish they did maybe the style again and a new dance. Maybe I am missing the point of it? It is just for filler, right?
[WHAT THE HELL IS CAT WEARING??? OMFG! She looks like a dish scrubbie. My last gay nerve is plucked. Somebody needs to beat her down, show her.. Before she dresses for NATIONAL TV again!!]
Anyhoo, it was an amazing season. Danny should have won out of that final four. Oh, and Jaime was robbed. What the hell with all those conservative styles she got all season? Other than those 2 gripes I am good. Congrats Sabra!
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Anyhoo. Idol was grand last night. It was a bit on the Jesus-y side again tho. The theme was songs that ‘inspire you’. David Cook sucked, while Kristy Lee Cook was.. not horrible. I still hate her though. Michael Johns looked and sounded amazing. Our hosts this week (we were off the hook last night) did a great job. I gotta say tho, watch out for the blueberry martini. It’ll get ya if your not careful! 
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